I am incredibly different than I was when I was young. When I was young and was in a relationship I made it my entire world. When I was young I was irrational and never thought things through so I was always hurt by my own actions.
I’m 22 years old right now and as I sit and reflect I am amazed how much I’ve changed. I never really noted the smaller changes though. It wasn’t until the actions, behaviours, and words some people say that sparked anger and annoyance in me. I didn’t know why at the time but after reflecting some time ago I came to understand why.
I see my younger self in those people. They are irrational and so head over heels in love that their relationship is everything to them. I know their relationship does not concern me but for some odd reason it angers me because I also see them complain, whine, and cry over every little thing in their relationship that is just so trivial.
I guess due to the reminder of my past struggles (particularly in relationships) and how I made my life revolve around it made me upset. It makes me sad seeing people make their relationship their entire world because it ends up them having no life of their own and that’s completely unhealthy. And some of those I notice who are like that are those who are very clingy. Let me tell you something… that is incredibly unhealthy and all the issues you end up having is because of that.
It was when I met Jay that he began teaching me things and how to be my own person and that relationship isn’t your whole life. It is a part of it, for sure, but you have so much else going on in your life. So it saddens me and angers me seeing people just throw their life away because they’re so obsessed with their relationship. They’re mindless zombies who do everything based off their relationship.
Jay has been incredibly busy with his co-op and part time job we only talk for maybe 15 – 30 minutes every morning for me (or his evening) but I am not complaining. Then I see people who complain not having hours with their boyfriend/girlfriend to talk to. Are you kidding me?
There are people who see their significant other more than once a year. I can only see mine once a year, nothing more than that. So why are you complaining? Can’t you count your blessings?
I am getting angry as I write this. And I’ll end it with one last thing. I see people complain non-stop about things in their relationship when they don’t get what they want (e.g., not talking to their significant other enough) but you know what? Yeah I get it it’s sad but count your damn blessings because at least you can have oodles of hours to talk to your partner and some people, like myself, do not even have an hour.
Some people need to learn to live their own life, count their blessings, and for God’s sake just grow up. Your relationship isn’t your entire world and if it is then I feel sorry for you.